Gestational and perinatal grief: psychological support
The pain of a loss deserves to be accompanied, even if others can't see it.
A pregnancy or perinatal loss is a real grief, even though it's often lived in silence and surrounded by words that bring no comfort.
You may feel guilt, anger, or an emptiness that's hard to put into words; you may struggle to understand how the world keeps turning as if nothing had happened; or it may seem that no one around you grasps the scale of what you've lost. All of that is part of grief and it makes sense.
There's no "right" way to live through a loss, nor a set time to get over it. Here your pain fits in full, without rushing and without you having to justify it.
I accompany grief processes related to:
- Miscarriages or pregnancy losses
- Termination of pregnancy
- Perinatal grief
- Guilt, anger, or emotional emptiness
- Pregnancy after a loss and fear in later pregnancies
There's no "right" moment to ask for help
You can seek support right after the loss, weeks later, or even years later if some of that grief is still present. There's no deadline that marks when it's time to ask for help.
If the pain comes with thoughts of harming yourself, or you feel you can't hold it, please also contact your GP, the 024 suicide-prevention helpline (Spain), or emergency services (112): therapy is a complement, not a substitute, for urgent medical care.
How I support you through perinatal grief
I accompany your process at your own pace, making room for every emotion that arises and helping you move through them without feeling you "should" already be better. Grief isn't erased: it's integrated, and you can learn to live with it in a kinder way.
If you're pregnant again after a loss, or fear you might be, we can tend to the intense fear and the mix of emotions it stirs up, so you can live it with a little more calm.
Ways grief can show up
Emotionally
- Anger, guilt, or a sense of emptiness that's hard to name
- Envy or pain at seeing other people's pregnancies or babies
- Needing to talk about your baby and feeling there's no room to
- Intense fear around a new pregnancy
From those around you
- Well-meaning comments that don't comfort ("you were still young", "you can have another", "just relax, it'll happen")
- A sense that you're expected to have "moved on" already
- Differences with your partner in how you each grieve
- Loneliness from not finding anyone to talk to openly
Frequently asked questions about gestational and perinatal grief
It was a very early loss, can I still ask for help?
Yes. The pain doesn't depend on how many weeks along you were, but on the bond and the expectations you had already built. Your grief is valid regardless of when it happened.
How long does the grieving process take?
There's no fixed timeline or "right" way to go through it. We work at your pace, without pushing you toward any calendar.
I'm pregnant again after a loss, can you help me?
Yes, this is one of the most common situations I support: holding the fear and ambivalence of a pregnancy after a loss.
My partner doesn't want to talk about it, is that normal?
It's common for each person to grieve differently. We can work in session on how to communicate your needs without forcing how your partner processes what happened.
Is something wrong with me if I don't cry as much as I did at first?
No. Grief changes shape over time; feeling it less intensely doesn't mean the loss matters any less.
Your loss matters, and your pain deserves a space where it can be held.